Stop, look, listen

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There is only one real way to learn, and that is by DOING. The side effects? We blunder through life; knocking into things, bumping around, and falling down, seemingly all the time. The good news is, we aren't in this alone. Think about every major accomplishment in your life and I bet they can be traced back to someone who encouraged you, believed in you, and told you to "go for it." I'll bet they can be traced back to a mentor.

“One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination.” — John C. Maxwell

We never have to do anything alone. Not really. The older we get and the more we accomplish, it becomes easier to recognize what an important role the people around us play in our lives. 

“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.” — John Crosby

Most people aren't actively looking for a mentor, and if they are, the real trick is finding a person who will give you the direction, guidance, and love that you need, even if it's not what you were originally looking for. The real power of mentors and leaders comes from their ability to allow others to make their own mistakes while keeping them under their wing.  

It is a mentor's willingness to guide and protect, but also allow for error. Bailie and I have been blessed to find this in Jay. As we have pursued goals and dreams of our own, he has given guidance and warning, all while allowing for us to make our final choices. It is true love to let someone learn what you already know is the "hard way." It is also true patience to allow someone to follow their heart when you see things they can't. 

“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” — Steven Spielberg

The love and support we have experienced while working with Jay is insurmountable. He has not only encouraged us to chase our dreams, but he has allowed us to grow along side him, under his care, as he continues to chase and achieve his. In doing this, he has helped us to maximize our personal strengths in both our personal and professional lives. He has shared the most meaningful parts of himself which helped to build a love and trust that we feel lucky to have so early on.

“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” — Benjamin Disraeli

We have experienced mentorship in a very real way, because our mentor understood that there was a process of learning that we had to go through. Among all the things I have learned, I now know this; we don't do anything alone, and when we find the right people who will lead by example and love us through our process, we are unstoppable. All we have to do is stop, look, and listen. 

“Show me a successful individual and I’ll show you someone who had real positive influences in his or her life. I don’t care what you do for a living—if you do it well I’m sure there was someone cheering you on or showing the way. A mentor.” — Denzel Washington

Jay Noland, Founder & CEO of Success By Media, Leader, Speaker, Mentor, and Friend.

Jay Noland, Founder & CEO of Success By Media, Leader, Speaker, Mentor, and Friend.

Lessons we have learned from our mentor: 

  • Working keeps you young.
  • Don’t ask permission. If you believe in something, do it. And if it doesn’t work out, you learned.
  • Don’t complain. It accomplishes nothing and wastes time.
  • If people want to go. Let them. And wish them well. 
  •  Love people.
  • Know yourself. Self-awareness is the start of personal growth and is essential to your success.
  • Hard things will always remain hard. Things don’t get easier by putting them off. Do the hard things first, whether or not you feel like it.
  • Ask questions. The world belongs to the curious.
  • Fail a lot. Just don’t give up. Failure is merely a different word for learning. No need to get emotional about it.
  • Pay attention. Mentors know what they know for a reason.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn

 When writing this blog the topics are never forced. We feel strongly about everything being as authentic as possible. Similar to last week,  I had half a post written, then late one night after filming in the studio this week, Bailie and I stuck around to answer a few of the most common questions that have been flooding into our inboxes since we started working with Jay. After watching it back, we thought it would be fun to share with all of you.  

 

 

We are so grateful for everything we are learning from Jay on a daily basis. We know you are too and we want to hear back from you! Please share your favorite "Jay lesson" in the comments below.

"The capacity to learn is a gift, the ability to learn is a skill, the willingness to learn is a choice." Brain Herbert 

What are you choosing?

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