Success has one enemy- your belief system. If you study successful people you'll notice they share a specific set of beliefs.
These are the seven deadly sins that alone or together, will destroy the mindset necessary to accomplish and achieve any desired result.
1.) Backtracking: continuing to do things that don't work
We complain about tight muscles, but never stretch after workouts.
We complain about gaining weight, but diet coke is a necessity.
- We complain about our bank accounts, but refuse to change both our spending and our earning habits.
- We complain about our relationships, but figure the problem has less to do with ourselves and more to do with.. well, just about anyone else.
We complain about how things are, and then make no adjustment to how we think, speak, and act. It's insane. Stop for a minute. What is actually working in your life? And what really isn't? It's not hard to identify.
Let's do more of what's working and stop the rest.
2.) Pretending: being someone you're not
We've all worn some type of mask. Bottom line- we do it to impress and please others. The reality is, we live in a world where we are surrounded by other people's opinions. When we allow what other people think to dictate any part of our personal lives- we lose our personal power. It's ironic that in our attempts to "save face" we lose our real ability to save ourselves. The longer you wear any kind of mask, the tighter it gets, and the harder it is to take off. Sometimes we wear them so long, we suffocate. Why would we rather die for the sake of what others think, than live for the sake of what we think?
3.) Forcing: trying to change or convince other people
No matter how close you are to someone, no matter how good you are at reading people, forcing someone along is wasted energy. Jay has taught this in a very impactful way. When he trains, he is there to inspire, not to convince. He facilitates change, never forces it.
4.) Pleasing: trying to please everyone
This will kill your momentum every time. Successful people worry about pleasing the RIGHT people, not ALL the people. In this life there will be people who flat out do not like you. Want to know a secret? None of that has anything to do with you.
You are not for everyone. Your methods are not for everyone. Your business is not for everyone. The sooner you realize that that is okay- the more pleased YOU will be.
5.) Instantly Gratifying: being impatient
Jay reminds me all the time that success will meet me once I've "paid my price".
Anytime you feel frustrated and impatient ask, "am I paying my price?"
6.) Small Thinking: imposing limits on yourself
You decide what you're capable of. Our process is quite literally as easy or as hard as we decide to make it. The sad thing is, most of us have decided that both change and success are so hard that we stunt our own growth. Where there is always a price to be paid, we choose whether or not to enjoy the journey.
Get out of your own way.
You're killing you.
7.) Flaking: not doing what you say you'll do
I've asked a handful of Jay's friends and colleagues their #1 piece of advice for working closely along side him. Every single one of them said the exact same thing,
"Do what you say you'll do."
Jay has taught me that nothing kills trust and respect quicker than being unreliable. Additionally, nothing kills a relationship quicker than a lack of trust and respect. Jay understands that building business and success will require building relationships. The best way to build both is doing what you say you'll do.
Successful people can be counted on to do everything they say they will. This has taught me to be more careful with how I speak, and it has made me more accountable in following through. I'm not perfect (this blog post is late..) but luckily Jay always does what he says he'll do- and he first and foremost promised to love and look out for me. Even when I come up short.